A Public Apology
I’ve taken down the Sorry Day post. Things have gotten out of hand. One of the people who was harrassing me the other day sent the link to the woman mentioned in the post, and she’s been very hurt by it. That was never my intention at all. I deliberately left out all identifying details, and I took great pains to clarify that even though I disagreed with her, I still liked and respected this person. In fact, I’ve directed this person to my website in the past, and I didn’t say anything in the post that I didn’t/wouldn’t say to her face. Some of the comments got a bit rough though (not that I’m shifting the blame onto you guys!), and this woman isn’t very comfortable with blogs and the Internet. To her eyes, it looked like we were ganging up on her. I’m really very, very sorry about this.
The whole situation came to a head this week and I had to do something to clear the air. (I’ll also be apologising to the woman in person, and also the other woman mentioned in the comments.) To be honest, the decision to remove the post wasn’t an easy one to make. On one hand I want to admit to my error and make things right… and on the other hand, it fills me with a blinding rage to give in to the trolls who were harrassing me. (I do not believe that the woman in question had anything to do with them, other than being told about the post.) But you know what? I have to be the grown-up here. My friendship with the woman affected is more important than spiting trolls. So I’ve removed the post and I unreservedly apologise to the woman in question. I’m sorry.
And as for the troll in question? I don’t know what I did to piss in your proverbial cornflakes, and I’m sure at this point I don’t care. For future reference though, I do have a log of your IP addresses, and the next time someone asks me to prove it was you – as happened today – I might not be the bigger person after all.
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*HUGS* – I don’t comment but I do lurk about here. Sorry your situation had to come down to this, you are indeed the much bigger person with a good heart. -sends you lots of virtual cookies-
honey I am so sad that you had to take down your post as it was a great post – and it is your blog and you should be able to say and discuss what you want.
*HUGS* to you too……
Ditto – BTW i’m really impressed with how you are handling all this. You really are the bigger person.
Kudos for the way you are handling it. People you care about first is a great attitude.
I join missfee in expressing sadness that you have had to do this.
Huge respect from this quarter.
major bummer that you felt you had to remove a post. i understand completely the difficulty of the situation. Hopefully it will blow over and you deserve a very large piece of chocolate cake and a hug.
It’s one thing when some random big-mouth from who-knows-where stumbles across your site on the internet and poops on the party. However, I find it particularly sad that the person knows you and/or the other person well enough to find your site, and then they choose to hide behind the veil of supposed anonymity to make nasty comments. Just cowardly.
My favorite part was how they tried to make it seem like it was for MY OWN GOOD. “Oh, thank you ma’am! May I have another?”
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You guys have really helped me out with this. Thanks so much. It’s hard to want to get out of bed in the morning when several people that you thought you were on friendly terms with suddenly start giving you the cold shoulder. My stomach’s been churning and I haven’t been able to eat. It helps to know that not everyone hates me!
Hey RT! I meant to chime in earlier, but I just wanted to say that I’m sorry about the big fiasco. Don’t fret about it too much…your readers love your blog, and it is YOUR blog, so people who don’t like what you write should just f-ing get over themselves instead of setting off some sort of high school drama.
We love you, Kris!!!1