“High IQ cuts women’s marriage prospects.” Oh, good grief. I can tell I’m supposed to be shocked and outraged at this, but I’m really not. I don’t even really see it being a problem. I imagine that most of the guys intimidated by smart women aren’t worth our time anyway. I think it’s worth it to spend the extra time finding somebody intellectually compatible. (I’ve done the dating-a-dumb-guy thing, and the fun wears off pretty darn quick.)
Claire
January 3, 2005 — 10:11 pm
Eeek, I’m too scared to even click on that link and read the full article 🙂
miftik
January 3, 2005 — 10:56 pm
I once dated someone with a lower IQ than mine. It was a short lived relationship that I have almost completely blocked out. You’re right, it wasn’t worth my time.
Frances
January 4, 2005 — 1:09 am
I am with you, spend the extra time to find someone intellectually compatible…otherwise you both end up frustrated. I think the world gets itself in too much of a hurry over most things anyway.
Kris
January 4, 2005 — 11:34 pm
Here’s a classic Dumb Boyfriend moment for you: I was studying overseas in Germany for six weeks when I was 16 and I was terribly homesick and lonely and desperate for contact with people I knew. And my dumb boyfriend sent me one crap letter, half of which was taken up by a large pen drawing of Beavis and Butthead. I wish I were joking. (I also wish I hadn’t continued to date him for, oh, another 18 months, but bygones…)
Anonymous
January 13, 2005 — 3:46 pm
Well let me tell you another side of the spectrum! I love my boyfriend of two years to pieces. He is always very considerate of my feelings and in all aspects he is just a great partner, he outshines any other man that I have been with. The problem is that he is not intellectually compatible with me. I don’t want to sound like a horrible girlfriend for saying that but it has been bothering me more and more lately. Whenever we watch TV shows or movies I have to try and explain what is going on to him and don’t even get me started on when I was trying to talk about the details of the mortgage that we were looking into. He is very smart mechanically and I find myself pretending not to know little things to do with machines just to make him feel better. I just feel like when I have a dilema of any sort I have to figure it out on my own because he is not smart enough to help me through it. I want someone to give me some advice or maybe just reinforce my idea that I should suck it up. I dont want to leave him, I love him very much and he IS a great guy otherwise, it’s not his fault he’s just a few bricks short of a load.
Kris
January 13, 2005 — 8:14 pm
No, but if constantly explaining stuff to him gets frustrating or annoying, do you really want to go on like that forever? (I say that knowing that the Snook is *always* explaining things to me, but it’s more random stuff like how computers work. And he likes talking about that sort of stuff.) The big warning sign to me would be the mortgage. Sure, you don’t need a partner that can do brain surgery, but I think it’s totally reasonable to expect someone that can understand the very big issues you’re going to encounter in life. So for me, based on what you said… I’m not sure I’d see a long future for the relationship.
Anonymous
July 28, 2005 — 11:36 am
I just discovered that the guy I used to like didn’t like me back because “I’m too smart for him”. Guys are assholes.